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When our babies are growing ... and reach adolescence

I dedicate this post to Frikimami, in one of the last Her blog entries are wondering if it is taken as the children when they are young and when they are babies, bring up is the passing of my friend's entry Conxi , where he says quite rightly that the most difficult to have children is educate them.

Ivan

Obviously it is too small to discuss this issue as a mother, but I can say I have some experience because my brother is a teenager, and the fact that we spent 15 years has meant that I've done largely responsible for their upbringing and education.

If you want to be brief, I can tell you obviously do not enjoy a 3-child like that with 15 years in fact 15 years not enjoy, or that is not the concept I apply to the parent-child relationship at that age. The big difference is that, as much @ s will remember, at certain ages, much love, much love and so much of everything that gave the parents, they begin to be a latazo for adolescents, who focus their world your friend @ s, it seems that they can not live without. We must find a balance so that they have their freedom and time with friends without losing your family life, and above all that this family life is not a pain for them.

Before mother said I have to settle for getting my son the same relationship I have with my brother. My brother was my priority since I was born, I've taken over from him as much as I could, as much responsibility issues such as school or doctor I've always been me, besides my brother has done everything for me ( cinemas, circus, beach, bike trips, and a long etc. ...). When I went solo my mother took the job he really belonged, but until then, even his school psychologist said it, my mother and I had exchanged roles with respect to my brother.

Columbian Fair 2009

We have always been closely linked because after 15 years of arrival only daughter of my brother was a true gift, not because they were born 3 days after my birthday. So from my childhood I carried it everywhere with me, was taking a nap on me, bathed him, did everything possible with him. When we moved to Huelva had a time of great loneliness, but I really did not matter because, although he only had 2 years company gave me more than anyone and had enough. Acompañadado me many times and I've been to has really enjoyed his childhood with him, and I've grown up with addiction in every sense of the phrase.

The conclusion is that obviously do not enjoy it now as when I was a tadpole, but is still my child, and all that attachment nurtured from birth has led not only to respect me and obey me, but that the difficult age of 17 years of no shame not prove their love in public. My brother hugs me, kisses me, grabs my hand and goes with me everywhere, even longer stay with their friends if they ask it. I am very proud of our relationship and hopefully, as I said before, to achieve the same with Ivan.

So nobody better to accompany him to the altar on my wedding day ...

I go crying her eyes out because at that time I was surprised the sound of a bagpipe as a surprise

So there is hope, and even in adolescence are no longer children or enjoy it as such, does not mean they cease to be ours, because we can always share things with them, and above all, show our love (and they are left) .