One of the things you often hear around when you start in this maternity is that which parents and grandparents agree, or spoiled, and it is something I am not at all agree.
Grandparents do not have the task of educating and of course I think they have the right to consent in any way to their grandchildren, but they should not do is undo all that they achieve their parents.
Ivan is fortunate to have grandparents, is something that I'm glad because I did not want his grandparents out those unknown to those who visit occasionally. Also, when I joined the work Ivan did not have 5 months and not let go so small in the store, but I could not stop working to devote to it, so I was always clear that no one better than my mother to take care of the little while we were working. And I have to say I do not regret at all, in fact Ivan loves her grandparents, and my mother in general has always been guided by what I have been saying despite disagreeing on many occasions, but I always respected because I am his mother.
But the other day I had to put serious. I can do better or worse, but in any case I am the first responsible for my son, and there are things for me are fundamental and which did not happen. One of them, Ivan I of the hand when we walk down the street, always, consent to be loose. With my parents and do not know, but of course I can not speak if I'm ahead ... but the other day my mother and I went down the street and Ivan did not want me to shake hands, because of course, as with the grandparents to do so ... so I got angry with him, I stood in the middle of the street and told him I would not continue walking until you give her hand to her grandmother or me, when my mother dropped the typical "leave it, the grandparents are for spoil. "
No, you are no grandparents to spoil, are not to undo what parents built with more or less work and success. And as I was a little my mother got angry tone. Then I explained quieter than in the first place, we, your father and I, decided how to raise and what things to teach our son, and second, that my brother Adrian has been religiously in my hand when we had gone out with me until he 12, and if I could do with my brother, I can do with my son, and third, that given the current circumstances, that is, I'm almost 7 months pregnant, I can not afford to allow that Ivan made what he pleases and go loose in the street because I can not go running after him, and do not want to have to take a dislike, now or ever.
When I said this last my mother seemed to understand why I insist so much on this issue, and obviously, deep down I'm the person who spends more time with Ivan and that more goes out with him, I lead a pregnant belly and will soon bring a stroller, I will have total control available for Ivan and I have to teach certain things to get power out to the quiet street. But I would not have to explain that by saying "Ivan must always go hand in hand with someone on the street" enough, do not discuss my decisions.
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